RUMBLING WITH EGO IN PARTNERSHIP

Happy Monday! How has your week been? ๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐Ÿ’ž

Do you find yourself having more rumbles with your partner's ego than tumbles in the bedroom? ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ’จ๐Ÿ’ซ Does it feel like that story you read to your child at bedtime, 'We're Going on a Bear Hunt' where you 'can't go over the mud, you can't go under it, you've gotta go through it?' ๐Ÿป๐Ÿป Yep, working with an ego can definitely feel like thick, oozy mud! ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿพ When you're in it you may not see your own path - the fog can cloud the bridge up ahead. ๐Ÿ‘โ€๐Ÿ—จ๐Ÿ‘โ€๐Ÿ—จ

I have certainly had my fair share of pesky rumbles with my partner's ego ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜ (and yes I used to have a very strong ego so I'm no exception ๐Ÿ’ช), however, breaking through can feel like the sun finally coming out after torrential rain! ๐ŸŒŸโญโ˜€๐ŸŒžThere's absolute bliss, peace, intimacy and affection when you're not fighting with an ego. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜˜

Some of the most common patterns I've experienced in my own home with 'ego' as well as helped clients with are:

*Doesn't need any help and believes it's right.

*The outside world (eg finanancial situation, career, health, children's behaviour) ๐Ÿค‘๐Ÿ‘ญ influences how the person feels.

*Operates from fear - fear of being out of control, addressing pain, getting help.๐Ÿ’ฅ๐Ÿ’ฅ

*Everything is measured, rigid, inflexible. ๐Ÿ’จ

*There may be a lot of physical pain in their body - unprocessed emotions that are stored in organs glands, body parts etc ๐Ÿค๐Ÿ˜ฉ

*Justifies and defends a lot in communication. ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ค

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I am so grateful to my husband who is happy for me to share an example of how his ego used to surface in our home. That man certainly does rock! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿฅฐ

Through awareness we realised his self esteem/ego thrived on challenge/struggle/stress. ๐Ÿ’ฅ๐Ÿ’จ๐Ÿ’ฅ If you're ever in a life or death situation, you definitely want this man by your side! ๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐ŸŒˆ However, when I was thriving, loving life, high vibration he would pull away or take from the space. He no longer felt valuable or needed. ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒˆ A new belief was created where he believed he was worthy to give and receive from a deep, loving, intimate, light and easy partnership. ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’‘

The Emotionally Happy Homesยฎ tool I used a lot to navigate through the mud ๐Ÿ˜Š was 'Trust energy' where I trusted myself to kindly and warmly share what I was seeing. So I would say, 'My love, can you see that you're controlling, in fear, justifying or defending etc right now? What would you love to create or feel in this space?' ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿฅฐ

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Please know that you are so welcome to email me back if you have any questions, feedback or if there is anything I can help you with. ๐Ÿ’š Here's to creating Emotionally Happy Homesยฎ from the inside out. ๐Ÿ’•

Sending you all so much love,

Kirsten

P.S. If you would love personal awareness to untangle any deep subconscious patterns and create your own Emotionally Happy Homeยฎ, please call our office angel, Jane or Suzy at Step Up Your Life, Coolum Beach on: 07 5351 1970. Can be done in person, over the phone or via Skype. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’Ÿ๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿ˜