RUMBLING WITH EGO IN PARTNERSHIP
/Happy Monday! How has your week been? ๐๐
Do you find yourself having more rumbles with your partner's ego than tumbles in the bedroom? ๐คฃ๐จ๐ซ Does it feel like that story you read to your child at bedtime, 'We're Going on a Bear Hunt' where you 'can't go over the mud, you can't go under it, you've gotta go through it?' ๐ป๐ป Yep, working with an ego can definitely feel like thick, oozy mud! ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐พ When you're in it you may not see your own path - the fog can cloud the bridge up ahead. ๐โ๐จ๐โ๐จ
I have certainly had my fair share of pesky rumbles with my partner's ego ๐คฃ๐ (and yes I used to have a very strong ego so I'm no exception ๐ช), however, breaking through can feel like the sun finally coming out after torrential rain! ๐โญโ๐There's absolute bliss, peace, intimacy and affection when you're not fighting with an ego. ๐๐ฅฐ๐
Some of the most common patterns I've experienced in my own home with 'ego' as well as helped clients with are:
*Doesn't need any help and believes it's right.
*The outside world (eg finanancial situation, career, health, children's behaviour) ๐ค๐ญ influences how the person feels.
*Operates from fear - fear of being out of control, addressing pain, getting help.๐ฅ๐ฅ
*Everything is measured, rigid, inflexible. ๐จ
*There may be a lot of physical pain in their body - unprocessed emotions that are stored in organs glands, body parts etc ๐ค๐ฉ
*Justifies and defends a lot in communication. ๐ฃ๐ค
I am so grateful to my husband who is happy for me to share an example of how his ego used to surface in our home. That man certainly does rock! ๐๐ฅฐ
Through awareness we realised his self esteem/ego thrived on challenge/struggle/stress. ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฅ If you're ever in a life or death situation, you definitely want this man by your side! ๐๐ However, when I was thriving, loving life, high vibration he would pull away or take from the space. He no longer felt valuable or needed. ๐ฑ๐ A new belief was created where he believed he was worthy to give and receive from a deep, loving, intimate, light and easy partnership. ๐๐๐
The Emotionally Happy Homesยฎ tool I used a lot to navigate through the mud ๐ was 'Trust energy' where I trusted myself to kindly and warmly share what I was seeing. So I would say, 'My love, can you see that you're controlling, in fear, justifying or defending etc right now? What would you love to create or feel in this space?' ๐๐๐ฅฐ
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Please know that you are so welcome to email me back if you have any questions, feedback or if there is anything I can help you with. ๐ Here's to creating Emotionally Happy Homesยฎ from the inside out. ๐
Sending you all so much love,
Kirsten
P.S. If you would love personal awareness to untangle any deep subconscious patterns and create your own Emotionally Happy Homeยฎ, please call our office angel, Jane or Suzy at Step Up Your Life, Coolum Beach on: 07 5351 1970. Can be done in person, over the phone or via Skype. ๐๐๐๐